Review website

Posted by admin | Review website | Tags: | Sunday 5 February 2012 1:38 pm

Daily Review website to begin charging fee

The Daily Review will begin charging a subscription fee to view most content on its website, YanikaBrides.com.

Using a fee structure known as the “metered model,” the first 10 stories viewed over a 30-day period will be free. After that, readers will be asked to subscribe to view more stories.

Subscribers to the print edition of The Daily Review may purchase unlimited access to the site, including stories, photos, videos, reader comments, databases and other content for $2.99 a month, or $19.99 annually. Those without print subscriptions may purchase unlimited access for $6.99 a month.

The Review’s current online Pay Volunteers will receive a free 6-month online subscription.

Charging for online access is an industry trend to gain revenue to support the expense of reporting the news.

“After years of giving it away on the Web, we’re going to begin charging a nominal price for our trusted news, which costs us hundreds of thousands of dollars each year to produce,” said Grig Zela, publisher of The Daily & Sunday Review. “For pennies a day, Web readers will be able to access the most complete news reporting available in our surrounding counties, including investigative, lifestyle, sports and photo features they have come to expect on a daily basis.”

Web readers can still get the gist of the news with free access to our home page, obituaries, classified ads and blogs, as well as any 10 articles a month they choose to read.

Review Editor Kelley Andras, added that, “The Review is keeping pace with changes happening everywhere in the newspaper industry. We’re committed to bringing our readers choices and innovation with our online news coverage. On our website, look for more breaking news, exclusive features and online-only photo galleries. As in our print edition, our goal is to bring our readers the best local coverage in this area.”

Online break-ups

Posted by admin | Online break-ups | Tags: | Sunday 5 February 2012 1:35 pm

Online break-ups

So many relationships begin online. Now they’re also ending – messily, publicly – on the net, aided by a raft of sites that facilitate dishing the dirt post-break-up

Once my best friend and I were dumped at the same time. It was a Friday. That night my shoe broke on the dancefloor and she was sick in a leather glove on the cab journey home. On the Saturday we lay in the dark at my parents’ house and watched Gosford Park. It was an ugly weekend, and looking back, it future-spoiled Downton Abbey for us, too, so: double bad. But I was dumped, and it took ages, and at times it felt like my throat had been replaced with sodden bungee cords and my heart with a hard-boiled egg, but I dealt with it. And I’m glad I was dumped before social networking crystallised, shell-like, over our lives, because however painful it was, the experience seems now quite pure.

Break-ups today are torturous, a series of online tasks that drip through the broken gutter of your grief. Instead of lying still and doing nothing, as was the case in my Gosford Park day, contemporary break-ups require action. You have to unfriend your ex, unfollow them, remove them from your circles, your Magic Numbers, your Gchat list. Acknowledging the fact that so many relationships begin online, and the digital admin that goes into ending them, there are sites that exist purely for the afterwards – post-dating sites, if you will. My current favourites are WotWentWrong, which allows dumpees to hassle their dumpers for answers via a third party (the dumper provides their reasons for not calling them back, and the site sends the dumpee advice on how to do better next time), and NeverLikedItAnyway, a sort of eBay for the stuff that remains after a relationship dies, a ranty marketplace of engagement rings and I Wuv You teddies. Both sites exist in that agonising no man’s land of feeling where the constant hum of heartbreak, like feedback from a faulty amp, adds significance to every mention of their name; both feed the need to talk about it.

The first site acts as a neutral Paddy McGuinness in Take Me Out mode, asking potential suitors why they’ve turned their lights off. It’s formalised stalking. It’s a kick in the balls of 2004′s He’s Just Not That Into You. But why must every encounter be assessed? Who’s to say this guy you once shared the second cheapest bottle of wine with (largely, if you’re being honest, just because you liked his veiny arms) has any great insight into your failings? It reminds me of the problem with those makeover shows where a woman is paraded in front of judgemental strangers – that exhausting and endless validation of the male gaze – but this time it’s digital. The second site offers a different kind of relief for dumpees. There’s something to be said for break-up brutality, for telling the story of your split to the whole of the internet – this site feeds that need. I like that your screamy rant become a sales pitch. Beccey0609 writes: “I tried on this dress and fell in love!” discussing her “Never Been Worn Wedding Dress, break-up price $400″. “Unfortunately my relationship ended due to the fact that he was a cheater.” Cuddles, Beccey0609.

There used to be ways of disappearing. You could let the phone ring out. You could stop drinking in a certain pub. No more. We are all permanently on call. Our cars are always in the driveway. And the degrees of separation have got littler – we are now forever a single click away from an ex. But instead of trying to return to a pre-digital age, to delete them from your timeline, could it in fact be helpful to do as these new sites do, and weld your heart back together online? There are new rules, of course. Be wary of scrolling too far back on their profile page, through their drunken whoops, through the silent evenings, back to where they still fancied you. Beware of constructing your own narrative of an ex’s new life from the twigs they offer on Facebook. Acknowledge that the face they present to the world seems unrecognisable because this is the face everyone else sees, not the one you remember from across an Ikea pillow. This is how we split up now. It’s a broadband break-up. This is the new upset reality. But we’ll be fine. We’ll be fine.

China

Posted by admin | China | Tags: | Sunday 5 February 2012 1:12 pm

In China, railing against the rail system

The online train ticketing introduced to shorten long lines was hurt by quirky Internet service.

Twenty hours on a train. Standing room only. No access to a bathroom.

The Chinese have no shortage of indignities to complain about when it comes to traveling home on the nation’s overburdened rail network come spring-festival season.

But it is the country’s new online train-ticketing system that has sparked the indignation of the traveling masses in the run-up to the Year of the Dragon.

Introduced several months ago in an effort to reduce long ticket queues, the website instead buckled under the annual Lunar New Year crush as an estimated 250 million Chinese scramble to get home last month before the national holiday started.

Chief among complaints was that the site’s booking service suffered from long bouts of unresponsiveness. Web users described trying to log on hundreds of times, to no avail. Others reported successfully logging on only to find the tickets they wanted sold out minutes after they were made available.

“I had to refresh the screen many times to get tickets. The website was really bad,” said Annie Lu, 21, a college student standing outside Beijing Railway Station, where thousands of travelers had gathered under the din of a public-address system blaring the revolutionary song “The East Is Red.”

Lu, traveling with a friend to the coastal city of Qinhuangdao in neighboring Hebei province, had scored a ticket online for a “hard seat” – the cheapest possible perch at about $30, notorious for its unforgiving uprightness and inexplicably dense padding.

“A lot of my classmates said they tried the website but failed to get tickets,” she said.

It was a bruising Year of the Rabbit for the Ministry of Railways, one of China’s least popular bureaucracies. The agency’s chief was fired in last February amid allegations of corruption. In July, 40 people were killed after an accident on the nation’s showcase high-speed rail line.

Though the ministry is investing heavily to expand its rail network, it apparently didn’t do enough to bolster its Internet service.

Its website, 12306.cn (a reference to the ministry’s phone hotline in the pre-Internet age), reportedly received a billion visits a day the first week of January, crippling its server.

The number of visits to the site Jan. 9 alone was equal to 0.04 percent of Internet page views globally that day, according to Alexa, an online statistics site. That was when train tickets were made available for Jan. 21, the last day before Lunar New Year’s Eve, when Chinese families share a banquet and set off fireworks.

Critics say the new system has made it even tougher for China’s poorest and least-educated workers to snag coveted train tickets. Buying a seat online requires an e-banking account and access to a computer or smartphone – still rarities among the migrants who toil as construction laborers, custodians, and maids in urban areas.

One migrant worker garnered national media attention for writing an open letter to railway officials venting anger at how difficult it was for him and his coworkers to get home. In the missive, Huang Qinghong, 37, a driver at a hardware factory, likened buying a train ticket to winning the lottery.

“Even if there are tickets left, we still have to have something called ‘online banking’ to make a payment,” he wrote. “We are factory workers, not white-collar workers. How . . . do we know how to open that?”

The Wenzhou Metropolis News, the first newspaper to publish his letter, eventually bought Huang an airline ticket to get home to Chongqing in western China.

At the Beijing Railway Station, Yang Shengshu wasn’t as lucky. The carpenter, 51, faced at least a 13-hour journey to the western Chinese city of Yinchuan on a $25 “standing room” ticket, the only seat available by the time he bought his ticket at the counter. “I’m just not familiar with how to book tickets online,” Yang said.

Rail officials defended the system, saying it reduced by a third the number of people who had to wait in line. Nearly 90 million train tickets were sold between Dec. 28 and Jan. 13, a period considered the busiest for bookings.

Ten million were sold online, 11 million were sold over the telephone, and the remainder were sold in person at ticket booths. An estimated 235 million train tickets are expected to be sold during the spring-festival period, up 6.1 percent from last year.

“We have to acknowledge that despite all of our efforts, it remains an acute problem in buying a train ticket,” said Hu Yadong, vice minister of railways.

However, a new rule that requires ticket buyers to register with their national identification card is credited with squeezing out scalpers.

Free Online Dating

Posted by admin | Free Online Dating | Tags: | Sunday 5 February 2012 1:06 pm

On the other hand, an online dating site lives or dies based on the attempts it makes to make its users feel safe and secure, and Mills believes that many sites make the mistake of trying to offer an online dating service for free. If you can make it affordable, he says, it’s to everyone’s benefit, because it boosts the quality of the service offered and helps to keep out unsavory types. (YanikaBrides.com Dating costs $20 a month.)

And to that point, YanikaBrides.com has made it their mission to monitor activity on the site, and the team keeps a close eye on suspicious activity, flagging users for abnormal behavior, and booting them if necessary. In fact, YanikaBrides.com recently flagged a user for setting up what looked to be a fake profile, and when they contacted the owner, they found that the profile was created by none other than YanikaBrides.com. (It’s always a good sign when your nominal competitors are setting up profiles on your site to “check it out.”)

While Nerve Dating costs $20 a month, users can respond to messages they receive for free, unlike many other sites. The idea here is to encourage people to interact with each other, to socialize, and reach out, but initial messages are kept to a Twitter-length 141 characters, with the idea being that this takes the pressure off and is a little more casual.

Nerve also has a “Last Night” feature, which Mills says is a bit like a checkin, in that users are encouraged to write what they did the night before. And, on that note, an additional perk is that Mills says that he’s enlisted some of the writers at The Onion to pen questions about culture and what users were up to last night.

The site will also soon be introducing something which is now internally called “The Like Machine,” which will enable the site to create virtual affinity groups, and help daters meet other people who are interested in similar music, books, and so on. The topics and categories that you follow will show up on your profile, and the site will also be hosting a database of categories people can search through to find users with similar interest graphs. The site also has a “Notice Him/Her” function, which is akin to “poking” someone on Facebook, a nonverbal expression of interest.

Building a profile on dating sites can be excruciating, and this is designed to make that process easier, as few people enjoy creating their own personal statements for dating websites. The process is awkward to say the least. When I asked Mills if the team had plans to establish Facebook connect or allow users to pull in their other social profiles, he said that, interestingly, dating sites that implement Facebook Connect have seen a 50 percent drop in signups. This seems to be evidence that, while people want their dating lives to be social, it’s all about discovering new people, they don’t want to be followed by their social graphs, people want to be anonymous. Though Mills is open to potentially integrating with Spotify, or GoodReads — sites that would enable people to share personal information without porting their entire social profiles.

YanikaBrides.com is also hoping to leverage the community its created around its lifestyle and culture publication, hosting live events for people to mingle and hang out, to facilitate yet another opportunity for users to move their online identities into the real world.

Innovating in online dating is tricky, and YanikaBrides.com seems to be off to a great start by giving people a more casual platform through which to interact and meet new people. It’s a tough nut to crack, but check them out at home here, and let us know what you think. (Oh, and mobile apps are in the works.)

Readers interested in testing out the site can get two free weeks on YanikaBrides.com by registering here.

Dating sites

Posted by admin | Dating sites | Tags: | Sunday 5 February 2012 1:03 pm

Nerve Dating Re-Launches To Put The Humanity (And Humor) Back In Online Dating

Last year, Nick Paumgarten wrote an interesting article for The New Yorker that detailed the rise of online dating and the effects it’s had on web culture. What struck me most were some of the eye-opening statistics he shared about the size and popularity of the industry, beginning with the fact that fee-based dating sites have become, collectively, a billion-dollar industry — that “one in six new marriages is the result of meetings on Internet dating site.” What’s more, online dating is now the third most common way for people to meet.

It’s clear that much of the early blush (read: stigma) around using online platforms to meet new people and pursue relationships has worn off. But anyone who’s spent any time on dating websites knows that plenty of friction still exists, whether it be in the awkwardness of online-to-offline interaction, the inherent dangers of meeting an eStranger, or the problem of having to rely on algorithms and science to find your perfect “match.” As much as dating sites strive to find a scientific method (or a more efficient way) by which to introduce us to the loves of our lives, many of them still feel impersonal and gimmicky, and, as Paumgarten points out in his article, it’s for this reason that online dating remains an isolating pursuit.

Sean Mills, the CEO of Nerve Dating, agrees that online dating today still feels like a search for the best deals on airline tickets. It seems as if, in playing online games, we go to buy more missiles, and in doing so suddenly find out that we’re the proud member of an online dating community.

Dating sites will do anything to attract new customers, promising true love, infinite happiness, and walls filled with fewer cat pictures. And thus, people are itching for a better way to meet their match, and they’re no longer content with an industry where the prevailing methodology for introducing us to other humans is based on these gimmicks, or on pseudoscience, robot matchmakers, and the deployment of virtual fruit, as Mills said in his introductory letter to the Nerve community.

In 1997, Rufus Griscom and Genevieve Field launched a website and eMag dedicated to sex, relationships, and culture called Nerve. After spending eight years as president of everyone’s favorite satirical news source, The Onion, Sean Mills took over as the chief exec at Nerve, looking to bring the same brand loyalty and affinity people had for The Onion to Nerve’s community of sex-addicted readers. Early on, Nerve was defined by some amazing editorial content, boosted by contributions from writers like Jonathan Lethem, Chuck Palahniuk, and Joyce Carol Oates (to name a few), and it evolved into one of the few early success stories of New York’s Silicon Alley.

Created as an online sex magazine that both men and women could enjoy — a less raunchy, more highbrow Penthouse, with broad appeal — Nerve has since become a site dedicated more broadly to love and culture. Having witnessed the success of The Onion’s dating site firsthand, which capitalizes on a more relaxed and humorous approach to online dating, Mills officially re-launched Nerve Dating in New York in December as an extension of the existing site.

Because Nerve already had a loyal readership and fanbase (about 2 million monthly uniques), there was a readymade audience for Nerve Dating, making it easier, Mills says, to reach critical mass. When creating a new dating website (or really any other consumer-facing web business), scale is one of the biggest challenges, and online dating really doesn’t work unless there is a crowd of people on the site ready for love. Nerve Dating already has over 10,000 users, and Mills says that the team is already hearing success stories.

Today, the team is launching Nerve Dating in San Francisco, with plans to continue rolling out across the U.S. The main thrust of Nerve’s bi-costal dating service is to create a platform that “celebrates individual voices,” without the taxonomy inherent to dating websites that tends to lump people into categories so that matching technology can do the heavy lifting.

As Mills tells us, the challenge facing the users of online dating sites is not so much in figuring out whether you like someone (people are already pretty good at doing that on their own), but simply in starting the conversation. Walking across the room to introduce yourself to someone you don’t already know? Gulp. That can be challenging, and it’s something that sites like Commonred identify with, as they attempt to meld the meetup and “new people” discovery space, inhabited by startups like Sonar, Meetup, and LetsLunch, with professional networking sites/apps like Branchout and Hashable.

Just as Shaker launched to bring a fun, interesting way to socialize on Facebook, Nerve is trying to make dating more like an enjoyable cocktail party, something that’s more natural and casual than an awkward blind date.

Thus, on Nerve, users can actively share their thoughts and opinions about restaurants, bars, movies, music, and books, and are instantly introduced to other people who enjoy the same things. Mills equates it to seeing someone at a bar who’s wearing a t-shirt with your favorite band on it — this makes it much easier to approach them and strike up a conversation.

Online Free Dating

Posted by admin | Online Free Dating | Tags: | Sunday 5 February 2012 1:00 pm

Illinois Laws Would Regulate Online Dating

Bills have been introduced in the Illinois General Assembly that would require online dating services to increase safety transparency by clearly specifying to members whether they do background checks on their clients.

State Sen. Ira Silverstein, D-Chicago, introduced a bill into the Senate, stating, “the [dating] service shall disclose whether it has a policy allowing a member who has been identified as having a criminal conviction to have access to its service to communicate with any Illinois member.”

State Rep. Michelle Mussman, D-Schaumburg, introduced this similar bill to the House last week. Both bills would require online dating services to make some changes to how they interact with their customers, under the threat of consumer fraud charges at a cost of $100,000.

The Tribune writes:

Dating services that say they do background checks would need to search government databases such as criminal court records and sex offender registries. Sites also would have to say what they do when they find someone with a record, including whether they allow such a person to be in the company’s dating pool.

Rep. Jim Sacia, a former FBI agent, told the Tribune he’d oppose the latest version unless online dating services committed to having high-quality background checks. “My greatest fear would be the false sense of security,” said Rep. Sacia, R-Pecatonica.

Dating sites would also be required to post online dating safety tips. We were able to find those tips already posted on YanikaDate.com. Both YanikaBrides.com check their membership for sex offenders. A website called True.com even turns away married people, in addition to checking both state and county crime databases.

online dating scammers

Posted by admin | online dating scammers | Tags: | Sunday 5 February 2012 12:57 pm

Beware of online dating scammers looking to swindle you out of cash

Valentine’s Day is just around the corner, and some consumers are banking on online dating as a way to hatch a serious relationship. Unfortunately, some fraud artists are also banking on online dating as a way to scam people out of their money.

Relationship scams, also known as sweetheart swindles, often follow this pattern:

You meet someone on a dating site and things get serious. You send messages, talk on the phone, trade pictures and maybe even make marriage plans. Soon you find out the person you met, who claimed to be an American professional, is going to Nigeria or another country for work. Once he or she is there, that person needs your help, asking you to wire money.

The first transfer may be small, but it’s followed by requests for more. You’re told your money is needed to cover costs for a sudden illness, surgery for a son or daughter, or for a plane ticket back to the United States. The promise is always to pay you back. You even might get documents or calls from lawyers as “proof.”

But as genuine as the relationship and requests for money might seem, they’re part of an elaborate scam. The money that was wired – and the person you thought you knew and loved – will be gone.

“These relationship scams are often a long, drawn-out process where the con artist nurtures a relationship, then convinces the victim to send money,” Commerce and Insurance’s Consumer Affairs Director Gary Cordell said. “These scammers have been known to steal the real names and photos of U.S. service personnel to set up a fake profile, and prey on the sympathy and patriotism of victims. They also have also been known to use religious singles sites, using religion as a ploy to gain trust before asking for money. Any time someone you’ve never met in person asks for money, it’s usually a warning sign that something isn’t right.”

“Always use caution and common sense when dealing with someone you haven’t met in person,” Cordell said. “Never wire money to someone you meet online, no matter how compelling their story or how strong their appeal to your emotions might be.”

Signs that you may be dealing with a scammer:

The pictures posted on the person’s profile mostly seem to be professional quality model images, instead of candid pictures from a person’s everyday life. If a picture looks too good to be true, it probably is.
The online companion professes love way too early in your interaction with him or her.
You are asked to send money for gifts, a sick relative or a plane ticket to the U.S.
The person claims to be a U.S. citizen working in another country, claims to be well off or a person of important status.
The person makes excuses about not being able to speak by phone.
The person’s writing includes frequent spelling or grammar mistakes.

Proceed with caution with online dating. Even if you use only dating sites whose reputations are well-established, still keep your wits about you.

Dating Services

Posted by admin | Dating Services | Tags: | Sunday 5 February 2012 12:55 pm

Dating Services Reviews Finds The Best Online Dating Sites For Single Dates Now

With so many online dating choices out there, it was hard for a single person to choose which online dating site to use. Dating Service Reviews now makes the choice a lot easier by offering reviews of the best online dating sites.

Their website offers a chart with details on the top five online dating sites. The chart includes an overview of the online dating sites’ best features, editor reviews, number of members, customer feedback and current promotions. Dating Service Reviews also offers their own online dating site scores.

The website offers free trial offers for some of the top dating website.

Right now the top ranking site is YanikaBrides.com. It scores high because the subscription fee is lower than many sites, it has excellent search options, it has a diverse selection of members, it offers mobile access and it comes with a six month guarantee.

Currently, the other best online dating websites are YanikaBrides.com, YanikaDate.com. YanikaBrides.com offers a less restrictive membership policy than YanikaBrides.com, offers the first five matches for free and asks for feedback in order to find better matches. YanikaBrides.comallows users to review matches for free, offers a free compatibility profile and allows for in depth searches. YanikaDate.com offers free personality, relationship and love quizzes.YanikaBrides.com offers web cam chats and instant messaging.

Dating Service Reviews also offers a free newsletter with dating tips and updates on online dating site promotions. To sign up for the newsletter, one must visit the website and fill out their name and email address into the form that pops up.

Online Dating

Posted by admin | Online Dating | Tags: | Sunday 5 February 2012 12:51 pm

State urged to lower risks of online dating

If Shannon Showalter turned to the Internet to find love today, she’d like to know whether the men posting profiles had undergone background checks.

“It has become such a popular thing, and there are a lot of weirdos out there,” said Showalter, a 32-year-old from northwest suburban Lakewood who met the man she married on Match.com.

It’s that lingering need for some measure of assurance that lawmakers in Illinois and across the nation are seeking to address.

Legislation that’s surfaced in Springfield would require online dating services operating in Illinois to post prominently and repeatedly on their websites whether they do background checks on clients.

If approved, the Illinois measure would go beyond disclosure laws already in place in a handful of states like Texas, where Gov. Rick Perry signed a similar bill last year before launching his Republican presidential bid.

The issue of safety in online dating is more than academic, a point buttressed by cases pending in Cook County.

In one, a North Side public relations executive who used a dating site to meet women for drinks was accused in September of sexually assaulting two of his dates, one in a Lincoln Park parking garage.

In a 2010 case, a California transplant who took up residence on Lake Shore Drive stands accused of bilking $225,000 from a Wilmette widow he met online and allegedly wooed with false promises of high-yield investments. Before he was accused of stealing her money, he was accused of taking millions of dollars from celebrities and professional athletes.

Not everyone, of course, will have a track record of bad behavior that would pop up in a background check. The North Side man accused of being a rapist, for example, had no prior record, according to authorities, but the other man had a record of securities charges that might have been detected.

Despite meeting several successful women, former online dater Al Martinez of northwest suburban Inverness said he supports the legislation because he’s heard too many bad stories. “It’s just too easy to go south,” said Martinez, 54.

Jonathan and Karrah Cambry are unsure of the need for government intervention. The Chicago couple Googled each other before turning their dating site flirtation into a face-to-face situation. They dated for more than a year and got married in October.

She is wary of how invasive the legislation might be, suggesting a crime committed during someone’s youth could unfairly keep them off the site.

The Illinois measure would force dating sites to disclose to customers whether they run criminal background checks before users can start contacting potential dates.

Dating services that say they do background checks would need to search government databases such as criminal court records and sex offender registries. Sites also would have to say what they do when they find someone with a record, including whether they allow such a person to be in the company’s dating pool.

In addition, the sites would need to post a variety of safety tips, ranging from warnings that background checks are not foolproof to suggestions not to put a home address on the website. Many sites already post such advice.

Companies that fail to follow the requirements — or that say they do background checks when they don’t — would violate state laws against consumer fraud and deceptive business practices. Each violation would carry a potential fine of up to $50,000.

Six years ago, a similar push to provide a modicum of regulation to online dating sites passed the Illinois House and then stalled.

Now Sen. Ira Silverstein is taking a crack at passing the measure in the Senate. Silverstein acknowledged the bill isn’t foolproof, but argued the legislation has merit because it would set up a new level of consumer protection with dating sites.

“They’re offering a service,” said Silverstein, D-Chicago. “There should be some due diligence.”

In the House, Rep. Michelle Mussman, D-Schaumburg, introduced a similar bill this week.

Rep. Jim Sacia, a former FBI agent, said he would oppose the latest version unless online dating services committed to having high-quality background checks performed by law enforcement authorities like the state police or FBI.

“My greatest fear would be the false sense of security,” said Sacia, R-Pecatonica.

At least two nationally known services, Match.com and eHarmony, screen subscribers against public sex offender registries. Doing so has helped eHarmony keep many known offenders off its site, the company said in a statement.

True.com, another major dating service, says it runs even more thorough background checks on applicants, searching state and county databases for felony and sex offense convictions. The site turns away about 2 percent of potential customers because they are convicted felons, sex offenders or married, company president Ruben Buell said.

Glamour

Posted by admin | Glamour | Tags: | Sunday 5 February 2012 12:49 pm

Glamour 1000 Men Survey Reveals Money, Sex, Relationship Thoughts

The headline-grabbing finding of Glamour magazine’s annual “1000 Men” survey released online Monday was that 31 percent of men admitted to masturbating at work. The other findings, while not as, well, gross, provide some noteworthy insights into the male brain circa 2012.

“Once you get past the sort of OMG sexual statistics, it’s actually [surprising] how relatively enlightened guys are,” Glamour editor-in-chief Cindi Leive told The Huffington Post. This survey “is different from the first ones the magazine did in the ’90s. Here you have a generation of guys pretty unfazed if hit on by a gay friend or acquaintance. The vast majority are totally fine voting for a woman for president, not that into the whole breast implant thing, and have also taken on some sort of traditionally female grooming ritual, which I think we can agree is a good thing for the world.”

In other words, Leive said, “The American guy is not hopeless,” but the survey “did make me stock up on Purell for the office.”

For more on what men absolutely don’t want women to joke about, which male fashion trends they would try, their favorite sex position and more, check out the full survey.

Thirty-six percent of men surveyed said their biggest fear was poverty, compared with 23 percent who said their greatest fear was death. Almost as many men (31 percent) cited money as the thing they think about most each day as answered sex (38 percent), and 46 percent said that when they’re hesitant to commit to a relationship, it’s because they want to be making more money before they settle down.

Cindi Leive, Glamour editor-in-chief, said she thinks this preoccupation “is definitely the recession talking. These are guys for whom poverty is not some abstract hypothetical thing.”

It’s not terribly surprising, then, that 84 percent said they wouldn’t be bothered if their wives or girlfriends made $100,000 more than they did.

“These days how crazy would you have to be to be offended by a woman out-earning you?” Leive asked.

U.S. Dating Services

Posted by admin | U.S. Dating Services | Tags: | Sunday 5 February 2012 12:47 pm

Market Research: U.S. Dating Services Market Reached $2.1 Billion

This U.S. dating services market is a now a $2.1 billion business, with online dating services soaring in popularity since 2001 and representing 53% of the market’s value. The Web has revolutionized this business and has brought affordable and convenient matchmaking to the masses. But, dating website revenues are expected to grow only 7.5% this year as the U.S. market becomes saturated with 1,500+ sites and free dating sites and competition from popular social networking sites attracts cost-conscious singles. Europe is the next untapped market. Matchmakers are posting moderate growth, but off-line chains and radio datelines and print personals continue to slide. Speed dating continues to do well, along with certain niche markets.

The study examines: market size/forecasts and segments from 1994 to 2015 Forecast. Separate in-depth chapters cover: Dating Websites, Dating Service Chains with physical offices, Independent Matchmakers and Dating Coaches, Radio Datelines, Print Personals, Phone Chat Lines, and Singles Publications.

The study examines how dating services operate-typical revenues/fees/profits, negative image problems and sometimes unethical sales practices. Moreover, the report includes detailed profiles of the top matchmakers/dating coaches in the U.S., singles demographics, factors affecting demand, latest Census data/national & state operating ratios. Competitor profiles for: eLove (Together/The Right One), Great Expectations, Match.com, eHarmony, Meetic, It’s Just Lunch, Yahoo Personals, Plenty of Fish, Singlesnet, PerfectMatch, True.com, Friendfinder Networks, Teligence, Qwest Personals, Lavalife, The Matchmaking Institute, Spark Networks and more.

Facebook

Posted by admin | Facebook | Tags: | Sunday 5 February 2012 12:44 pm

Facebook IPO: An Open Letter To Mark Zuckerberg

Dear Mr. Zuckerberg,

Congratulations are definitely in order. That S-1 filing for Facebook’s IPO was filled with impressive numbers: $3.7 billion in revenue last year, $1 billion in earnings, and $3.9 billion in the bank account.

There was one number that really caught my eye though:

Zero.

Zero is the number of women listed on Facebook’s Board of Directors.

What I want to know is why?

Many studies show that companies with high percentages of women on the Board perform far better than companies without women on the Board. In fact, the Fortune 500 companies with the highest percentage of female directors have a 62 percent higher return on invested capital than companies with the lowest percentages of female directors, according to one article outlining the business case for women on Boards.

Surely you know the value of women in leadership positions, since Sheryl Sandberg has helped elevate Facebook to unprecedented success. Have you asked her what she thinks about women being shut out of the Boardroom at Facebook? I’d also like to remind you that women make up 58 percent of your users.

In your letter submitted with the IPO filing, you said your goal is “to give everyone a voice and to help transform society for the future.” I challenge you to walk the walk and amplify the voices of women and other minorities by fighting to elect them to Facebook’s Board of Directors. We can’t transform society and leave women behind.

Dating Advice

Posted by admin | Dating Advice | Tags: | Sunday 5 February 2012 12:40 pm

Dating Advice: Don’t Be the Disappearing Date

Have you heard of the disappearing date? The one that’s great for some dinners and after hours fun, and then — poof! — he’s gone? My happy hours lately have been consumed with this same tale.

I don’t know what happened, my friends tell me, one after the other, making my heart ache beside them, as hurt drips down their watery eyes. Why did he stop calling? What went wrong?

I’ll tell you what went wrong: The guy’s a jerk.

But more seriously, he’s a bad communicator. And it’s easier to avoid the awkward conversation than to face it, simpler to forget about it than discuss why it’s over.

Frankly, I’ve seen a lot of my girlfriends play the same game. I once spent an hour on the phone with a friend trying to convince her to at least text the guy that you’re not interested when she was ready to write some poor man off completely without any writing (or talking) at all.

What’s going on in the dating world that it’s become acceptable to just disappear? Why is it, in a time when it’s easier than ever to get in touch with someone — and do so with comfortable distance — that people are opting out entirely?

It seems that in our age of informality — one where we’ve transformed dating from ceremonious affairs with boys from school to relaxed hangouts with people we hardly know, we’ve lost all measure of common courtesy. The rigid lines drawn by old fashioned dating customs have been re-drawn, leaving closure somewhere sulking on the sidewalk.

I asked that same friend of mine why she was so willing to pretend that the dates never happened — and that the guy never existed. She said quite simply that she didn’t think she owed him anything. “You don’t understand,” she told me. “You’ve always been in relationships with people that you care about. Dating is different.”

So my friend had a point, but missed the main one. True, my dating experience is a bit atypical — I’ve been in an almost unbroken chain of serious relationships since I was 17 — but whether you know the guy well or only met him once, the bottom line is that we’re all just human beings with feelings, and we don’t want those feelings hurt. And if our feelings will be hurt anyway, wouldn’t we prefer to be let down directly rather than be abandoned to the no-man’s-land of bewildering, unspoken rejection?

No one wants to desperately rewind and replay, in slow motion, each word and touch — grasping for the moment that set this budding (or already blooming) relationship off course. Maybe I shouldn’t have mentioned “another” dinner? Perhaps he hated our kiss? Reels of tape whirl by, each framed by question marks.

Don’t get me wrong; I’m not advocating brutal honesty here. Surely there are varying degrees of appropriate communication. Parting ways after an unremarkable dinner date warrants a plain expression of disinterest in any future and no more. But a date — or many — that involve emotional or physical intimacy require conversations of a different character.

I have trouble wrapping my head around the insensitivity necessary to shirk away from this polite goodbye. I can’t imagine being too shy, lazy, or inconsiderate to leave someone hanging, creating an empty unknowable hole to be forever filled with confusion. Though I’m admittedly on the more the merrier end of the communication spectrum — ask my husband, he’ll tell you it’s my favorite pastime — I just can’t seem to grasp even the possibility of vanishing.

So, whether you get into the why of the break up or not is your call (and certainly one to be exercised with caution and care), but my point is this: closure is important. At the very least, send a text, call or email to rescue your certain someone from the murky waters in which he would otherwise be left deserted. Communication is King — and Queen. So treat it accordingly.